Seriously though, people say that those who don’t want children are ‘selfish’.
But I think the privileged people with access to birth control and good education who insist on breeding because they want a mini version of themselves, rather…
omfg. I said that because I had a point to make.
If you haven’t already noticed, the world is extremely overpopulated. There’s thousands of children without homes to go to. I’m just saying, if you want children, why would you not adopt one of those children instead of raising your own? And the main problem is that most people who want biological children want them for trivial reasons such as ‘i want them to look like me’ or ‘i want them to be MINE’ as if they won’t be your children if you adopt them.
And there’s people who can’t have children who go to great lengths to have their own children such as paying loads of money for IVFs or surrogates, when they could just as easily adopt. It makes no sense to me. No matter how much people try to deny it, the world IS overpopulated. There’s people starving because there’s not enough resources left to sustain everyone and there’s people who insist on bringing more children into the world when they don’t have to. I don’t have a single idea how anyone can justify this so please enlighten me.
yes, there are large numbers of children without homes and there may be a problem with what you perceive as “overpopulation” but people who want biological children are not the ones to blame. there are power structures in place which make sure that resources are plentiful for some people and scarce for others. and it all ties into racism/colonization. there are hundreds of steps that can be taken to reduce scarcity of food, shelter, fuel etc. but the onus does not rest on those who wish to have biological children. and anyway, by your logic people who don’t want children at all are just as selfish? they’re not helping anyone? and then you might argue, oh well they might not have the resources. well if people who want biological children are gonna have to forsake their wants in life, then those people who don’t want children due to insufficient resources should forego other luxuries and dedicate their whole lives to fixing a problem that they largely have no control over.
telling people that adoption is the answer to the issue only reinforces colonialist ideals.
and you cannot generalise and say people who want biological children do it for trivial reasons. that invalidates your whole argument because you sound like an immature person who hasn’t considered the issue in depth and is just shouting opinions.
not to mention the history of race based sterilisation that has prohibited black people and people of colour from having children of their own, and the history of poc being cast in the caretaker role, taking care of white children all over the world. or the poc whose existence the world tries to erase, those people aren’t allowed to have their own children? do you not understand that the lives of these people and their endurance in raising their own families is an act of revolution?
and saying that people that choose to have biological children are “the most selfish people ever” again makes you sound so silly. that is just such an over-exaggeration that i can’t take you seriously.
yes adoption is noble, and important but that does not make people who do not adopt selfish. because it isn’t black and white. it’s nuanced. like life.
the fact that it makes no sense to you does not prove that people who want biological children are selfish. it just shows that you lack empathy and aren’t able to grasp the issue completely.
i’m not going to continue replying if you want to keep arguing. if what i’ve said hasn’t meant anything to you then you’re not somebody i can be bothered wasting energy on.
To be honest, I completely understand what you’re saying and I agree. There are bigger problems than someone wanting one of two children. I know I exaggerated when I said ‘the most selfish people ever’. It was mainly to get my point across and not because I believe it’s the case.
When I made that post originally, I DID generalise and I DID exaggerate. But keep in mind, I stated in the original post that it was meant purely for ‘privileged people with access to birth control and a good education’. I agree with everything you said, but I think you completely misunderstood my point. Or maybe I articulated my point badly.
The post was aimed at certain groups of people, and I’m sure I was clear about that initially. When I said ‘those who insist on breeding because they want a mini version of themselves’ I meant THOSE people, not everyone who wants biological children because I know there’s other reasons for wanting them.
I’m not trying to backtrack what I said by saying this stuff. It’s right there in my original post and I stand by it. I know I probably should have elaborated initially. But you cannot deny that there are some people out there who are exactly like what I’m talking about. Yes, I know not everyone is like that, but they’re not the people I called selfish.
Overall, I think you misunderstood the people who my post was aimed at and I’m sorry if I offended you or anyone else. Please know that I don’t think the people you mentioned are selfish people for choosing to have biological children, but I do think they’re people out there who are selfish and who act on their own desires without thinking of the consequences or implications of their actions.